Friday, September 28, 2007

Polar Opposites...how does that work?

I have been married to the same wonderful man for a little over 30 years...he is the perfect man for me...Loves the Lord, sweet, kind, honest, funny, loving, great father, doesn't try to change me into someone else, lets me be my crazy self...all the good things a woman wants in her man!! Right...I am so lucky and I'm sure if you ask him...he'll tell you he's...well,... I think he'll tell you....ummmm...something hopefully as wonderful...My point is...I don't know how we have stayed married for over 30 years...we are polar opposites in many things...he is athletic, I'm a klutz...
he's quiet and observant....lets just say...I am not. He loves to go to the theater...I like to rent movies and hang out at home....he is a morning person...I'm certainly NOT! He has no siblings...I had two...now one. He loves to fly...not my bag...He packs lightly...I always over-pack! He wants one of these.....













I of course want one of these...I mean goodness...look at all the room inside...not to mention you can haul stuff in it!!! Love this...except I wouldn't really mind if it was a bit more beat up...you know kind of shabby...and certainly with bigger tires and not anything resembling a low rider!




Yes...I'm probably more country...he is probably more city...but not when it comes to music...he likes country and only country...I on the other hand love most all music...he doesn't dance...never really has...I grew up dancing and still love to dance. He is pragmatic and very analytical...I am fly by the seat of my pants...and romantic to a fault...he is very patient...I AM working on that!...He is very neat and tidy most of the time...I am organized but not always neat..does that EVEN make sense...He loves to try new adventures...I'm rather a chicken...but go along w/it if I can a.) fly in first class or b.) get me some type of anti-anxiety medication OR a stiff drink...he never gets excited or nervous...you could draw his blood and make Valium from it...I nearly have heart failure doing something out of my norm...sad, sad, sad chicken that I am...I really can't imagine two people being so different...even physically...he has blond hair...what's left of it...I have very, very thick dark, dark brown hair, he has deep deep brown eyes...I on the other hand have hazel eyes, he gets a tan in one day...when he tries...I can never tan...always burn...my skin is tan reflective...he's muscular built and large boned with long legs and 6' tall...I am slim,(well slimmer in my younger days) small boned with small muscles, and probably slightly above normal in height at 5'8"...probably something to do with not being athletic...He NEVER gains weight...Now that menopause has come into my world... I have to be more careful and watch what I eat!....

The list could go on for eternity I think...but I'm sure that you have more than an idea of how different we are....

How do you ask...have we managed to live with and love each other all these years?...what's our secret?...many have asked...And honestly I can only tell you a couple of things that I know we both have in common... besides the fact we are crazy for one another OR we're crazy...either way...it works!! Another is that we are both stubborn; we don't like to give up on something that is important to us...but in a good way...if that makes sense...we also have in common a mutual respect and trust for one another...I couldn't live with somebody without that...AND of course the one thing we do that is "right on"... the same...we are both big dorks...with dorky senses of humor and we laugh a lot, sometimes at each other...sometimes just at life! And we have both grown to love the Lord more with each passing year...and know we wouldn't have anything if not for his unending love...So thank God I met this man...Thank God...he led me to the perfect man for me....and Thank God we still love each other after all these years...who woulda thunk??? So here's a bit of a shout out to the Stud Muffin in my life...you're the best babe...and I'm one lucky gal...


So what keeps you going and sustaining in your relationship???





5 comments:

Sandi McBride said...

I'm not sure, but if there is anything to this string theory of the universe, we may be the same person in different places in the world, lol...your marriage sounds like mine (39 years Oct 15th)in nearly every way, cept I love to fly, he wants to never have to fly again. We too, are polar opposites even in that he is quiet and I am, well I'm not quiet...just reread your post, reverse the flying thing, then look at the picture of my truck and keep in mind he has a tiny little mazda truck (doesn't even get a capitalized letter from me) and a boat. Guess who's big honkin truck has to pull the stinkin' boat?

justabeachkat said...

Great post. We'll celebrate our 30th anniversary next March. We're v-e-r-y different in many, many ways, but alike in many too. I think what makes our marrige work is that we were friends first. We actually like each other. I know...shocking. Of course, we love each other too. But I think it's so important to like each other and want to spend time together. We also really communicate with each other and always have. We really share our lives together. I could go on and one, but I guess you get the picture.

Here's to 30 more...for you and me too!

Hugs!
Kat

Lavender Chick said...

What a great homage to the Stud Muffin! I bet y'all are a lot more alike than different. It's obvious that you and hubby are emotionally connected; that's what makes it work. It doesn't matter if you have different interests, as long as that emotional connectedness is in place. I think I just described my relationship with Jack!

Here's to 30 more great ones!

Susie Q said...

What a treasure this is for your husband! But then, he already has a treasure in YOU!

We just celebrated or 29th anniversary and yes, we are very different in many ways too. We have different temperments, handle stress differently (he is the CALM one) and
he is totally NON materialistic and I like stuff. : )
But we agree on most things like politics, religion, raising our children (we are both crazy about children and animals) and loving our pets.
We both think family is number one and I understand his odd ball sense of humor. He and I both tend to be a bit of a sarcastic sense of humor. We love the same movies and going to the theater and traveling.

Oh yes, we argue...we fuss at one another but, after so many years, it is over soon and does not happen often. We both decided, before we married, that we were making a commitment to one another and nothing could break that. We would honor one another and would be one another's best friend as well as lover/spouse. WE started as friends first and he is still, and always will be, my best friend.

I see people who are always kinder to strangers than they are to their own spouses.

Heck, we made it through 18 addresses and more sea tours than I can count. Many times away, war duty, deaths in the family, disappointments aplenty, infertility, adoption...and we hung in there together. Isn't it wonderful to have a partner who fully understands you and LIKES you? : ) I am so glad you have that...I think you are a wonderful couple and hope you will have many, many, many years ahead of you to enjoy life and one another.

Hugs,
Sue

Zachary said...

5'8"?!?!?! LOL! Teresa...you ain't no five foot eight. I cracked up when I read that. If you're 5'8", I'm 6'10"! Thanks for the laugh. Enjoy Italy.